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Hi Olenka -
I've opted for a tarot spread that sets out the negatives and the positives in a particular situation. On the negative side, if you opt for this particular course of action, there are some bad experiences or memories from your past which are likely to resurface. These are not insurmountable, but if you go ahead with your plan, something or someone unpleasant will return to haunt you from days gone by.
There are two more negative streams of influence that you might want to look out for, one from outside and one from within. On the outside, there is general disharmony, arguments, disagreements, and a lack of sympathy in the people around you - both towards you and towards each other. There is not much you can do to overcome this, except weather the storm. This will have a destabilising influence on the relationship, but perhaps not as much as the internal negative influence that I mentioned. You may fall victim to a habit of underestimating the extent to which the problems you will confront are created by yourself rather than by others. The cards suggest that if you go ahead with your plans, there will be short-term problems, but that they are things which could be stepped around without too much difficulty if only you could see the wood for the trees. You may be forced to accept that it's your own attitude which is the culprit at the root of the problem. This means the difficulties will be avoidable, but - of course - accepting responsibility for your own problems is always easier said than done!
On the positive side, you seem a very patient person who appreciates that what you want doesn't always materialise to order. You have a unique kind of courage that stems from this - you're not afraid to wait for what you want, or to exercise caution where it's needed, even at the risk of delaying your goals. Others sometimes mistake this for laziness or inaction on your part, but it's not - it's actually very practical. It might be useful to pay attention to this side of your character, as you think over the choices confronting you.
The relationship seems to offer an important emotional opportunity. There is a chance of real emotional happiness and fulfilment. There are three past relationships, or three people with whom you are still very preoccupied. The person with whom you are considering a commitment is a possible fourth person in this sequence. It's perhaps difficult to let go of the other three and let in this new relationship. If you can, there is potential for greater happiness. If you can't quite make room for the new relationship among the others, things may not work out as successfully.
Also - there is something about this relationship that at first sight appears obviously detrimental. If you choose to go ahead, you can already see that in certain respects you will be worse off - perhaps from a financial point of view, or something more internal. However, the important thing here is that you are already stepping into it with your eyes wide open. Think carefully, but the cards suggest it may not be the major drawback that it appears. You do not have much control over this particular circumstance, and it may take a long time before it shifts or turns around, but the cards suggest that what seems at first a backward step may actually strengthen the relationship in the long term.